Each day in December, I'm asking a juicy question to help you plan for a healthy, resilient 2014. The questions are in no particular order--just meant to provoke some thinking and get you moving in fresh directions. You can see previous questions here.
I first learned about the concept of "withholds" when I attended a Mark Group session a few years ago.
The idea is that in our relationships with the people in our lives, we often find ourselves holding back from expressing certain things.
Sometimes this is because we are unaware or behaving unconciously.
Sometimes we are consciously holding these things back because we don't want to deal with the emotions or the potential fallout of revealing how we feel.
One of the things that we may withhold from the people in our lives is forgiveness. This, of course, can weigh us down with negative energy and lots of suppressed anger and sadness.
Sometimes the best thing for us to do is to make a conscious choice to forgive. We may do so by expressing that forgiveness directly to the person or we may do that just to ourselves, especially if we need to forgive people who are no longer in our lives for various reasons.
Regardless, becoming conscious of where we're withholding forgiveness and finding ways to actively express that can be a powerful form of release.
Think of it as letting out a breath you've been holding for a very long time.
If you're comfortable with it, please share your answers in comments or over on The Bamboo Project Facebook page. Or just let me know how it feels to forgive.
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