30 Juicy Questions to Grow Your Life in 2014--Day Thirty!

Throughout December, I asked a juicy question each day to help you plan for a healthy, resilient 2014. You can see all the questions for the month here.

We've reached the last day, so it seems appropriate to ask this one:

Next steps

After 30 days of questions meant to help you reflect on so many things, at this point you're ready to be thinking about next steps. What do you want to DO in 2014?

One thing that is important about this questions is the issue of readiness--what are you ready to do? 

In coaching, I will ask people "What next steps could you take?"  This is a brainstorming question. What are the possibilities before you? 

I follow it up with "What next steps will you take?" This is the readiness question. Of all the choices, what will you actually commit to doing? 

What is also important is to think of "next steps." Steps are one foot in front of the other. They are not leaping or plunging ahead. They are small and manageable. 

So . . . what next steps are you ready to take into 2014? 

Happy New Year! And thank you for playing along this month!

 


30 Juicy Questions to Grow Your Life in 2014--Day Twenty Nine

Each day in December, I'm asking a juicy question to help you plan for a healthy, resilient 2014. The questions are in no particular order--just meant to provoke some thinking and get you moving in fresh directions. You can see previous questions here

  Fail

This question asks you to go out on a limb and to accept that big rewards in your life only come when you're willing to risk failure. 

We are often kept small because we want to stay in the comfort zone of perfectionism. We see failure as something to avoid, rather than as something embrace as part of the journey. 

As you think about your life in 2014, how can you invite in more opportunities to fail? And how can you change your relationship with "failure," so that it becomes a necessary by-product of risk-taking, rather than something to avoid at all costs? 

Of course, to fail more, you must also be willing to learn from your failures. This is part of the experimental approach to life where we try things out and learn from what happens as a result. Failure that we don't learn from isn't helpful. 

So, where in your life do you need to fail more? How can you make friends with failure and enjoy its rewards? 

As always, feel free to share your answers in comments or over on The Bamboo Project Facebook page. I'd love to hear from you!

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30 Juicy Questions to Grow Your Life in 2014--Day Twenty Eight

Each day in December, I'm asking a juicy question to help you plan for a healthy, resilient 2014. The questions are in no particular order--just meant to provoke some thinking and get you moving in fresh directions. You can see previous questions here

  Are you ready

One thing that can hold us back from change in our lives is thinking that we just aren't ready for it. We have to get more education or training. We need someone else to change first. We need for the situation to be JUST RIGHT.

This question asks you to think about the things you feel you aren't ready for in your life.

Write them down using this structure: "I am not ready for. . ."

Then sit with that for a minute, with that list of all the things you aren't ready for. 

Now it's time to flip it. Get rid of "not" and for each of the things you've listed, try saying "I am ready for. . . " 

The results might surprise you. . . 

Feel free to share your answers in comments or over on The Bamboo Project Facebook page. I'd love to hear from you!

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30 Juicy Questions to Grow Your Life in 2014--Day Twenty Seven

Each day in December, I'm asking a juicy question to help you plan for a healthy, resilient 2014. The questions are in no particular order--just meant to provoke some thinking and get you moving in fresh directions. You can see previous questions here

  Experiment

I'm a big believer in experiments. I think that being experimental in your approach to life keeps curiosity and growth alive and gives you a different way of engaging with change. 

This question asks you to think about the ways you could experiment with your life. How can you approach change as something you are "trying out" rather than something more permanent. 

Experimenting can allow you to tinker with things, giving you space to see what does and and doesn't work for you. 

For more on the experimental approach, check out some of the resources I've compiled here. They might give you some big ideas about how to construct an experimental life for yourself. 

As always, feel free to share your answers in comments or over on The Bamboo Project Facebook page. I'd love to hear from you!

And if you want to try out the VisualsSpeak Image Center to explore one of these Juicy Questions, check out my free holiday gift to you!


30 Juicy Questions to Grow Your Life in 2014--Day Twenty Six

Each day in December, I'm asking a juicy question to help you plan for a healthy, resilient 2014. The questions are in no particular order--just meant to provoke some thinking and get you moving in fresh directions. You can see previous questions here

  Empty my cup

Many of us have lives that are filled to overflowing--with people, with tasks and responsibilities, with STUFF! 

We only have so much physical, mental, emotional and spiritual capacity though. Our ability to manage things reaches a tipping point and we must ask what needs to go. 

This question prompts us to consider where and how we need to empty our cups.

How can we clean out our physical space and give stuff away to people who may need it more than we do? 

What emotional and spiritual clutter can we clear away? Are there relationships or situations we need to let go of?

What tasks can we permanently cross off of our never-ending "To Do" lists by simply saying they are no longer important to us? 

This question is somewhat related to our earlier question on what good things need to fall apart to make room for even better, but it's more about the daily types of things that keep our cups too full, rather than larger situations that need to fall apart. 

How do we create more space in our daily lives by clearing away the clutter? 

Please share your answers in comments or over on The Bamboo Project Facebook page. I'd love to hear from you!

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30 Juicy Questions to Grow Your Life in 2014--Day Twenty Five

Each day in December, I'm asking a juicy question to help you plan for a healthy, resilient 2014. The questions are in no particular order--just meant to provoke some thinking and get you moving in fresh directions. You can see previous questions here

  Love what is

Today's question is a hard one--at least for me. It asks two things of us really. 

The first is to know and understand those aspects of our lives that we can't change--at least for now. We can become obsessed with how to fix problems or people that continue to resist our efforts. Our desire to fix or change something that refuses to move keeps us stuck in problem mode and is a recipe for frustration. 

The other aspect of this question is for us to learn to love what is in our lives. Often this happens if we search for the places where we can feel grateful for what the situation brings us. Maybe it's lessons about ourself or space to do certain things.

I've had to learn to love those times in my work life when the work isn't coming as easily to me as I want it to. When I relax and look at where I can love that situation, I can see that I get space to work on ideas or projects that have been brewing, which ultimately works out better for me in the end. 

Often once we learn to love what is, it starts to transform of its own accord. At the very least, we find that our feelings about the situation begin to change and we are able to have an easier relationship with what is going on in our lives. 

So where do you need to love what is in your life?

Feel free to share your answers in comments or over on The Bamboo Project Facebook page. I'd love to hear from you!

And if you want to try out the VisualsSpeak Image Center to explore one of these Juicy Questions, check out my free holiday gift to you!


30 Juicy Questions to Grow Your Life in 2014--Day Twenty Four

Each day in December, I'm asking a juicy question to help you plan for a healthy, resilient 2014. The questions are in no particular order--just meant to provoke some thinking and get you moving in fresh directions. You can see previous questions here

  Challenge yourself

It's easy to become complacent about your life, following the same well-worn paths that come easily to you. 

This question asks you to think about where you need challenge. Do you need to take on new or different responsibilites at work or start looking for a new job? Is it time to turn your hobby into a business? 

Maybe you need to challenge yourself physically, mentally or emotionally. Where do you need to push yourself in new directions and take on some risk in order to grow?

Conversely, the challenge may be in stepping back and letting go. If you are someone who likes to control most things in your life, you may need to challenge yourself to just let things be. 

Setting challenge goals for yourself is an important part of growth. They keep you on your growth edge and make life much more interesting. 

Please feel free to share your answers in comments or over on The Bamboo Project Facebook page. I'd love to hear from you!

And if you want to try out the VisualsSpeak Image Center to explore one of these Juicy Questions, check out my free holiday gift to you!


30 Juicy Questions to Grow Your Life in 2014--Day Twenty Three

Each day in December, I'm asking a juicy question to help you plan for a healthy, resilient 2014. The questions are in no particular order--just meant to provoke some thinking and get you moving in fresh directions. You can see previous questions here

  Help reach dreams

In the past 6 months or so, I've found myself working more and more to help other people find and reach their dreams. I'm not doing this as my "job," but as part of a natural process of connecting to new people, learning more about what they want in their lives and trying to more deliberately offer myself and my resources in support of those dreams. 

It feels really good and it has helped me develop very deep and nurturing relationships very quickly. 

This question invites you to think about how you can offer your own talents and resources in support of other people achieving their dreams. It's somewhat related to our earlier question on bringing out the best in other people, but is more explictly about how you can help them achieve something they dream of for themselves.  

You must first, of course, find out what those dreams are. This question in and of itself is a fantastic conversation that quickly builds trust and authentic relationship. Although interestingly, I've also found that many people have given up on their dreams--which is a conversation for another day. 

Then you must look at how you can help that person make their dream happen. What resources can you offer? What connections can you make? What questions can you ask that help the other person further clarify the dream and what they need to make it happen?

I promise that focusing for a time on helping other people manifest their dreams will pay huge dividends for you too. It builds connection and a deeper sense of purpose. It's worth being intentional about this. 

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this question in comments or over on The Bamboo Project Facebook page

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30 Juicy Questions to Grow Your Life in 2014--Day Twenty Two

Each day in December, I'm asking a juicy question to help you plan for a healthy, resilient 2014. The questions are in no particular order--just meant to provoke some thinking and get you moving in fresh directions. You can see previous questions here

  Harvesting

Here's another question from poet/writer David Whyte. To explain the importance of this question, he says:

Most people, I believe, are living four or five years behind the curve of their own transformation. I see it all the time, in my own life and others. The temptation is to stay in a place where we were previously comfortable, making it difficult to move to the frontier that we're actually on now. 

People usually only come to this frontier when they have had a terrible loss in their life or they've been fired or some other trauma breaks open their story. Then they can't tell that story any more. But having spent so much time away from what is real, they hit present reality with such impact that they break apart on contact with the true circumstance. So the trick is to catch up with the conversation and stay with it —where am I now?—and not let ourselves become abstracted from what is actually occurring around us. 

If you were a farmer, and you tried to harvest what belonged to the previous season, you'd exhaust yourself trying to bring it in when it's no longer there. Or attempting to gather fruit too early, too hard or too late and too ripe. A person must understand the conversation happening around them as early in the process as possible and then stay with it until it bears fruit.

This question is a potent reminder for us to seriously consider exactly where we are in our lives and to ask if we are truly experiencing and learning the lessons of the present season.

Are we spending too much time clinging to something that's already gone? Or are we trying to move too quickly into the next phase without properly appreciating where we are right now? 

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30 Juicy Questions to Grow Your Life in 2014--Day Twenty One

Each day in December, I'm asking a juicy question to help you plan for a healthy, resilient 2014. The questions are in no particular order--just meant to provoke some thinking and get you moving in fresh directions. You can see previous questions here

Whole-hearted

 

Today's question comes from one of my most beloved writer/poets, David Whyte. He shares this one in his article, 10 Questions That Have No Right to Go Away. He says that at one point he was exhausted and trying to find his best next step when a friend told him this:

"The antidote to exhaustion is not necessarily rest. The antidote is whole-heartedness. You're exhausted because your real conversation with life is through poetry."

This question asks us to consider how we really engage with life. What ways of being can we enter into with our entire heart? What do we care most about in our work, in our families, in our relationships and in our lives? 

If you're only half-way in, then you are only half way there. Find what you can enter into with your entire being. 

Feel free to share your answers in comments or over on The Bamboo Project Facebook page. I'd love to hear from you!

And if you want to try out the VisualsSpeak Image Center to explore one of these Juicy Questions, check out my free holiday gift to you!